Friday, 25 August 2006


Not had much time to myself these past three or four days because I've been frantically looking for a dress to wear at my Son's wedding next Saturday. Just got one today, thank goodness.

I just read a blog on Donna's site, where she talks about meeting someone for the first time but feeling as if you've met them somewhere before, or known them all your life.

I just want to tell you the story of how I met my Hubby Adrian.

I was married to someone for nearly ten years, then he started drinking heavily and going out most nights and I hardly saw him sober.

I stood it for so long, the arguements when he came home drunk, the smashing of my glass doors, upsetting the kids and my Parents who were living next door to me at the time.

I asked him to leave, so he would sleep in the car under my bedroom window all night, which really unnerved me.

He went to live at a transport cafe next door but one to me, which was very embarrassing, as the owner was a friend of the family.

After a while, I began to feel really sorry for him, being alone and having nowhere to go home to, so I took him back.

After a while, it started again, the drinking and arguing, then he told me that he'd slept with his ex girlfriend whilst we had been separated.

I asked for a divorce and got one almost immediately. We kept in touch with each other and  after a few months, started seeing each other again.

We were happier than we had been in a long time. I moved house and things were fine at first but then it all started again.

Steven had been given a pc by his Dad around this time and he kept telling me that I should go in the chat rooms and make some friends.

I was VERY nervous at first, so Steven helped meby introducing me to some of his friends. Eventually I felt confident enough to go in chat rooms myself and found that I enjoyed chatting to people.

I had something to do whilst my ex was out in  the pub all night.

After a few weeks, I started getting im's from a man in Northern Ireland. I just kept zapping him at first, thinking he was just after one thing. The more I zapped him, the more he im'd me. He was so sweet.

He didn't chat me up as such but just kept sending me cute pictures and things.

We started up a friendship and got to know each other over the next few weeks. We found we had lots in common, like, he was the third born of seven children, so was I, he was the only one born at home, so was I . His birthday is May the 21st, mine is April the 21st , so we are both Taureans.

Really strange but we felt as if we had always known each other. It was as if we were meant to be together.

I used to cry myself to sleep at my situation and I just KNEW that there was someone else out there waiting for me. Someone who needed me as much as I needed them.

Adrian is arthritic and needs me to be there for him. I put him his shoes and socks on every morning, I make sure he takes his medication, all the things that carers do.

He helps me get through panic attacks, helps support my children with me , helps my Parents with little things like, taking Mum to buy her groceries, he's such a godsend.

It's a great feeling to know that we are here for each other. I can't imagine my life without him now.




pharmolo said...

Hi Pat,
Just started reading your journal.
Thanks for such a personal and revealing entry, isn't it strange how things work out sometimes?


chat2missie said...

Things are the same way between my hubby and me.  He's the world to me.

z7snowflake said...

thats a blessing that u found Adrian

deshelestraci said...

That is great the way it worked out for you.  I love your wedding picture.

ally123130585918 said...

Love your wedding photo Pat ~ It was surely meant to be that you and Adrian would be together ~ I am so glad you are happy ~ after the trauma of your first marriage ~ Ally

aniracj said...

There definitely is someone for everone out there, it is just a bind trying to get through the flack to find them!! My hubby and I finally met April '96 just as I had finally left a violent you we are so very happy together and I am content at last. Your wedding pics are lovely, I love a man in a kilt!

am4039 said...

what a wonderful love story. Thanks steveie for helping your mom. I'm happy that you found a dress. My hubby's birthday is 5-21-57.

jeadie05 said...

So pleased you have found the dress ,love your wedding photograph you both look so happy as your lovely story confirms ,thankyou for sharing ,..,.,.Jan xx

stevietwain said...

Awwww...*wipes tears*..ya big softy!!!

Love ya,


seraphoflove9001 said...

Thats so romantic! :o) I'm happy for you! :o)

chevyz71gurl74 said...

How sweet!
So glad you found one another.
I love the name Adrian
Have a great weekend

wrigleyrachey said...

Hi, so glad you found a lovely man after the experience with your ex. Second time round we make sure that they have different qualities. I never liked chat lines but has worked well for you. I never knew if people were truthful and they all had funnny